Many of the inconveniences that contribute to chronic stress and frustration are caused by the little, everyday things. Not being able to find your keys/sunglasses/umbrella when you leave the house in the morning. Someone canceling a meeting at the last minute. Lunch spilling in your bag during the morning commute. Missing the bus or train. The "guaranteed by delivery date" comes and goes with no delivery. Little things have the potential to derail our day, throw us off our game, and leave us in a funk, but it doesn't have to be this way.
It sounds so simple, but when you think about it, doesn't it also feel familiar? Most of us spend our work lives in a constant state of overwhelm. There will always be more work to do than there are hours in the week. We are expected (or expect ourselves) to be on and available all the time, reacting to whatever is happening in the moment.
What are you doing this weekend? It's a question you'll likely hear from at least one coworker this Friday, and it could be good for your productivity. Water cooler chat, the universal phrase that refers to all manner of casual conversations between employees, is beneficial for your wellness at work.
Research also suggests that imposter syndrome is extremely common. The idea that the majority of us struggle with feelings that we are not worthy, don't deserve, or just got lucky, in regards to our accomplishments is concerning, but not surprising. Consistent with many of the ails of contemporary life in the first world (#firstworldproblems), it aligns with a worldview of "never enough."
A few months ago, while going through some old paperwork, I came across an unopened envelope, addressed to me, in my own handwriting. (If your first thought was, "creepy," you're not alone. Alas, I did not time travel and leave myself a note.) After a quick wtf moment, context clues reminded me that I had…
At some point in your life, you are going to let someone down. Let that sink in for a minute. For many of us people pleasers, this prospect ranges from deeply uncomfortable to downright painful. We don't want to let anyone down! We want to do our best and have only happy interactions with others. How can I control for this phenomenon?
Saying "no" is one of the most powerful and underutilized resources in our working lives, and saying "no" effectively will make you more productive in the long run. However, if you are anything like me, you may find it really, really, realllllllly hard to just say "no." To keep from drowning in a sea of "yes," throughout my career, I've developed a set of questions that help me execute what I call "strategic no's."